Do is appropriate to give a child expensive earrings?
Nov 14, 2008 by Tomas | Posted in Parenting
my 8 years old sister has many 18 kt earrings. But I don't know if my mother should let her use the inherited earring that are of really expensive Diamonds and pearls. Those earring had been pass from mother to child for more that 7 generations. They have a colonial style. My mother want to follow the tradition But I do not know if is safe here in United States.
Should I convince my mother to wait?
I once let my 10-year-old daughter wear a very special pearl necklace to a wedding. She's a very responsible, mature girl, and I thought she deserved this special privilege. Well, somehow the necklace broke. I didn't get angry (it was my fault for letting her wear it) - but she was completely devastated. And of course, I was heartbroken about it, too.
Accidents can happen at any age, and to even the most careful, responsible person. But the truth is, they happen more often to kids. And with something as priceless and irreplaceable as your heirloom earrings, why take the risk?
If these were simply some expensive earrings, and your sister lost or broke them, all you'd have lost is some money. And it would be a lesson for your sister - she'd learn to be more careful with her things. But while your family earrings may be worth a lot of money, in reality, they're priceless. Once they're gone, they're gone - along with all the history behind them. That's too valuable a thing to use as a potential "lesson" for a young girl.
I feel that when you inherit a family heirloom, it isn't really "yours" - you are just its guardian, and it's your responsibility to preserve and care for it until it can be passed down to the next generation. If they're in your mother's possession now, then she has a great responsibility to take care of them... and that includes making sure they'll be safe in the hands of whoever gets them next.
Convince your mom to wait. Let the earrings be a special gift for when she graduates from high school, or when she gets married, or when she has her first child. She'll treasure them more then, and she'll be old enough to understand their importance.
Ashley | Nov 14, 2008
Only if you know proper english
Brad F | Nov 14, 2008
I would suggest that your mother keep them in her room and only allow your sister to wear them in the house or for special occasions for now. ... Times when your mom will be there to supervise her wearing them.
Whether or not it is safe is like a game of chance. ... For the most part it is safe, but there will always be sickos out there who take what they want, regardless of who it hurts.
Michelle | Nov 14, 2008
I would let her know that these earrings are hers, allow her to use them on very special occasions and kept them safe for her until she is of age or proofs that she is responsible enough for heirlooms.
Clara R | Nov 14, 2008
I think you should convince your mom should wait until she is older to pass them on to her. 8 year old kid are usually not very responsible enough for something that is worth that much.
Ashley | Nov 14, 2008
Of course she should not wear it any were but formal dress, with adult supervision jewelry is easy to lose.
And do not get angry if she is allowed to wear it and loses it, she is just a child.
asatrub non-partisan & confused | Nov 14, 2008
Yes convince your mother to wait! I had diamond earings passed down to me when I was about 11 years old as did my sister and she was 15. We both ended up losing them becuase we didn't understand the value of the earings and the meaning behind them. If she agrees lto let her wear them on special occasions, take them to a jewler to get screw on backs, instead of sliding the back on. But I recommend she waits, I wish my parents had waited longer =/
meg | Nov 14, 2008
no
Grillum | Nov 14, 2008
Not anymore than it is for an adult. If they can afford it, I don't see the problem.
Sanrio90 | Nov 14, 2008
I think she should wait until your daughter knows the emotional value of the earrings, maybe when she is older.
silliegirl | Nov 14, 2008
It depends how responsible she is, and if she is already wearing gold shes probably responsible enough.
Im surprised by how adult kids are now, and Im still in my 20s. I trust alot of kids I know more than adults I know.
Doggzilla | Nov 14, 2008
I would try, mainly because I just don't think it is safe to give expensive, and especially heirloom, jewelry to kids. They're just not as responsible, even the best and most mature ones. Things happen, and it would be really awful for those to be lost.
I do think your mother should continue the tradition, but they might make a better sweet 16 present.
Shishkani | Nov 14, 2008
Give her that when she become responsible enough to realize its value and feel her ancestors in it.
Warisha S | Nov 14, 2008
Earrings And Young Children?
Jan 07, 2009 by Mummy.2.1 | Posted in Parenting
I am just back from the local health centre, i was shocked with the number of children (boys and girls) that have earrings. Most arent even walking yet, some even have hooped ones!
Im not saying that these are bad mothers, but i personally think its disgusting. I mention it to the health visitor who agreed, she said she hates seeing earrings in young children.
Some mothers were even talking about it, they were saying it was hard to get somewhere to pierce the ears, so i know they arent fake clip on earrings.
Is it really a fair thing to do?
Thats the thing, the children cant even talk yet, some werent even walking. Definitely all were under 2!
One of the eldest with pierced ears was obviously new to walking, she was going around hitting the other babies. The mother just sat there. She then fell and banged her head and all mothers looked at the childs mum, who just said 'She will be ok in a minute'.
My son was playing with a toy at the surgery (his own) and the girl came and slapped him and snatched the toy. Again the mother did nothing.
Away with the fairies, we are talking about children that are well under 2! I would say the eldest was about 18 months! Some were younger than my son whose 10 months!
Yes i think it should be a childs decision, i got mine done after begging my mother, i was 10
When I see babies with earrings, it reminds me of those people with little lapdogs that they dress up! A baby's skin is fragile, and hoops are dangerous because if they get pulled, the earlobes could get ripped. Not to mention a baby can't care for piercings and that puts them at a risk of infection if the parents don't do it for them.
Not all girls will want their ears pierced. People tend to forget that just because a person is a girl, that doesn't mean they will want to wear earrings. I have some friends that say they will probably never get their ears pierced because they don't like the idea of a hole in their body.
I think it really boils down to the parents making their children wait until they feel the child is responsible enough to take care of the piercings themselves. My mom made me wait until I was twelve, and that was one of my birthday presents. Being made to wait was not a detrimental experience for me and I'm perfectly normal!
Besides, people have their whole life ahead of them to get body piercings. Why rush and do it when they can't even decide if they like earrings or not?
Flutegrl93 | Jan 07, 2009
I hate it, I think it looks so chavy and they must be at risk of infection. I wasnt allowed to get mine done till i was 11
OriginalBubble | Jan 07, 2009
chavtastic, as we say here. really ugly.
Booboo | Jan 07, 2009
Especially when they are boys. My mum waited until i asked to have mine done, i must of been about 10.
*♥* donna *♥* | Jan 07, 2009
I hate it. I think the studs look tacky (but are a personal choice) but the hoops are plain dangerous. I'll let mine decide when i think they're old enough to be sensible about it. Children aren't fashion acessories.
Lynne - Not A Supermum! | Jan 07, 2009
off course it is not fair
these children are being mutilated without their consent
I say, that you decide for yourself when you are older if you want piercings or not
Jan409 | Jan 07, 2009
No it is not a fair thing to do to these poor kids! Personally, I would consider it assault. And soooo trashy too!
KazB | Jan 07, 2009
In my opinion, no. What does the child benefit from it? Nothing really, except confusion at the pain (if the ear got infected, when it's done etc.). Piercing a baby's ears, or a small child's ears (when they're too young to understand) is selfish, because IMO it's just for the parent's benefits. I wouldn't pierce my daughter's ears without her permission, she can make that decision when she's good and ready.
sammyyy: 38 weeks ♥ | Jan 07, 2009
Stupid, ugly and dangerous to the poor child. The parents must be brain dead or something !
Charliebrown | Jan 07, 2009
i hate it too what gives parents the right to decide to peirce thier childs ears? i cringe when i see a tiny baby eith earrings in its wrong!! why would anyone want to inflict pain on thier child? just so they can say to thier friends "ooh look i had her/his ears peirced" there should be a age limit on it
pamela w | Jan 07, 2009
in terms of being fair, i would say yes.
but it depends on how old they are.
i think it's good for girls to get earrings between 4-7, but if they're not walking yet, that's maybe too early
margarita lover | Jan 07, 2009
It is quite painful for all the babies that having their ears pierced and sometimes it can cause infection or bleed badly because it is newborn.
Hoops are the most dangerous because if another baby in their nursery pulled at them they could rip through the baby's ears.
Daniel Boyle | Jan 07, 2009
i asked my parents why they didn't pierce my ears when i was a baby they just said it was my choice to make whether i wanted them pierced or not.
i personally dont think theres anything wrong with it most girls will get there ears pierced sometime in there life anyway why not have it done early saves the bother later..
вRιтιѕн' | Jan 07, 2009
No its not a fair thing to do
You wouldn't pierce a child's tongue or lip would you? So why is it ok for the chav's to mutilate their childs ears. Yuk! It looks sooooo wrong too
Like many, I begged my folks to have my ears pierced and felt a ssense of achievement when I had them done aat the grand old age of 11!
The people who pierce the ears of any child under 10 years of age should be slapped and shamed
Ok, lady below, you asked for it, you are now officially slapped and shamed!
RedSnook | Jan 07, 2009
Well slap me and shame me then! I let my daughter have her ears pierced when she was six. I waited until it was her decision, I would never have made the decision for her. I wasn't allowed my ears pierced until I was 13. I was the only girl in my class without her ears pierced and I still remember how old-fashioned and left out I felt. I decided never to let my daughter feel that way. She is a very sensible girl and totally looked after the piercings herself. I don't think she was in any way mutilated! And as for the pain - it's a tiny pinprick. Some of the people answering this question really need to get a grip!
Away With The Fairies | Jan 07, 2009
I would never do it. Mainly because a large number of people in my family are moderatly irratated by even the highest quality earring and a baby couldn't vocalize that discomfort. Aside from that a babies small earlobes could easily rip. There is also the factor that it is really a child's choice if they want to change there body for cosmetic purposes.
Emmy | Jan 07, 2009
Yes, not only do I think it looks disgusting, but I think it's unfair that the children don't have a say. My daughter says she wants earings (she's nearly five) but I won't let her until she's seven, which is the age I got my ears pierced.
Ava | Jan 07, 2009
it should be the childs desicion.. which they are unable to make at that age.
andreab11 | Jan 07, 2009
I think it is a very selfish thing to do to a baby. I mean, there is no medical reason for it! The parents just do it because they want a cute baby to show off. All this crap about doing it so they don't have to feel the pain when they are older bugs me too. Let your child wait until she is old enough to make the decision for herself, so she will be expecting the pain! A poor defenseless baby won't know why they are having holes punched in their ears. And finally, with all of the things a new mom has to worry about, I don't see why you would want to add cleaning ears and making sure your baby doesn't swallow an earring to it.
*climbs off of soapbox*
southpark714 | Jan 07, 2009
I wouldnt do it
It looks tacky and I think its cruel
My daughter asked for hers done a few months ago.
She is only 5 and she has seen me and her step mom with earrings in.
I explained to her, it hurts, and if she got them done she would have to keep her hands away from her ears for a while so they can settle properly
If she promised me that, she could get them done
She said she couldn't so I said no.
I was glad though cause personally I still think she is a little young
HalfWayThere | Jan 07, 2009
youre wierd lady ..most babies are under 4 months for piercings and it looks gorgeous
Super Nanny | Jan 07, 2009
I would never get my childs ear pierced - it is there own choice if they want it to start of with!!
and even when they reach the age of 10 and want them pierced i may still be a bit weary!!
20/07/09 Baby Due :D | Jan 07, 2009
I think it looks awfull. The child should be old enough to make His/Her own mind up.
RED | Jan 08, 2009
this is sick, this baby looks not a day older then 6 months
http://uk.youtube.com/watch?feature=related&v=DJppxN40c1c
why would a perant go that?
puppy padfoot | Jan 08, 2009
should children in school be aloud to wear earrings?
Oct 19, 2006 by justaguy | Posted in Other - News & Events
we had a reasearch in school which is kind of a debate and please help me now.
After my own experiences as a student and as a teacher, I actually understand both sides of this debate. For years earrings on boys were a sign of gang activity; however kids find ALL kinds of ways other than earrings to show that they are part of a gang. For example, one student had gang symbols displayed with his shoe laces. I know this must be hard to imagine, but he actually used 2 different colored shoe laced to "draw" a design on his shoe. Personally I don't think there should be ANY regulations on earring wear by either boys or girls, because as I have said before - kids will just find other ways to express themselves. If a peson is going to use the argument of earrings as a distraction in the classroom, then hairstyles, clothing, other jewelry, and pens and pencils should also be regulated because they all pose possible distractions.
Just me.... | Oct 19, 2006
yes
what do their ears have to do with there learning.
besos | Oct 19, 2006
yes why not. they are going to school to learn . why are the teachers so full of crap these days. unless they are full of studs all over their face then no!! to that. but earings i do not see a problem.
crabsodyblues1962 | Oct 19, 2006
no in infant and junior schools but yes in senior schools
sunnyjomassey | Oct 19, 2006
At my daughters school they are allowed to wear earings but only small stud type ones, if not they have to remove them. I don't see a problem with that, big ones can get caught or pulled out.
*haggisbasher* | Oct 19, 2006
I believe that girls should be allowed to wear small rings, or studs. Nothing long and dangly. The key words are modesty and elegancy. Girls can look lovely without all the make-up and props.
However, I see nothing elegant or modest in boys wearing earrings. Such a topic is a non-starter with me.
ms_moonlight1977 | Oct 19, 2006
Why not? Unless they are those gigantic earrings, it's okay to wear them.
Gayatri K | Oct 19, 2006
studs or small hoops nothing huge and tacky.
lovktr | Oct 19, 2006
Why does it hurt to wear pierced earrings?
Nov 10, 2007 by Sunshine | Posted in Other - Skin & Body
I had my ears pierced many,many years ago--like 25.I seldom have worn earrings over the past 15 years as I was raising my children,and they'd pull on them.(I like the dangling kind.)Now my children are older,and I'd like to wear them daily again,but it is painful.Should I get them re-pierced?
NO!! That won't help!! You are probably allergic to cheap metals !! I am. Your earrings have to be gold as not to react and irritate your holes!! You can still wear dangle earrings just the part that goes into your ear has to be gold! You can try that and see if it helps!!
Polar Molar | Nov 10, 2007
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The photographs were discovered in a storage unit Alcala kept in Seattle, Washington, said Susan Kang Schroeder, public affairs counsel for the Orange County district attorney. The locker also contained earrings that belonged to Robin Samsoe, the 12-year-old girl whom Alcala abducted and killed in 1979.
"One of the seminal pieces of evidence in the [Samsoe] case was an earring that Robin was wearing," Schroeder said. "And we know it was her earring because her mom had clipped part of the earring."
Schroeder said that the fact that the earrings were found in the same locker unit with the pictures raised fears that he may have considered the photographs trophies of his victims. "We know that Mr. Alcala used his photography as a ruse to get close to his victims," she said.
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