How can I get Black and/or Hispanic women to not be intimidated by my Caucasian Charm?
Aug 08, 2007 by Donald B | Posted in Other - Society & Culture
I'm being sarcastic.
I'm 23, living in Florida. I'm sort of a prep, but not an azzhole. My family has a bit of cash but i'm pretty laid back. But it seems black/hispanic chicks don't take me seriously when I hit on them. They think i'm full of it and i'm really into them. I don't know if they think i'm a prick or what. These are chicks at my school. They just look at me suspect.
How can I let them know i'm not just trying to experiment but that i'm actually looking for a relationship.
I'm not about to start dressing hip-hop either. Sorry, that's not my thing.
latrailer-I'm not arrogant. Unfortunately, a lot of people ASSUME this because of what I look like and what my family has acquired. I can't help that. I'm really down to earth.
nubian-Not a problem. Key is getting them to go in the first place. I think they think i'm just experimenting or something.
Maybe i'm coming off arrogant. I thought I was being clever. It's pretty harmless, though. I'm not one of THOSE guys.
A-non-What attention, dude. The number of replies is quite pathetic.
The best info that I can give you as an African American woman is to be yourself. With anything it takes practice. you shouldn't have to dress hip hop like to get a girl- that won't help- they will see straight through you. I am sure that there are plenty of African American women who would love some white chocolate. Keep being you- you will find someone.
Good Luck
BeLiZe Gyal | Aug 08, 2007
ALRIGHT! FORGET THE RESTURANT!
SHOW THEM TEARS! TEARS WILL GET THEM TO TALK TO YOU ALONG WITH SOME FLOWERS :)
nubian girl | Aug 08, 2007
Don't break you arm patting yourself on the back!
latrailera2000 | Aug 08, 2007
No matter how much you try, you give off the appearance of someone arrogant. Even if the title of this question was a joke, it comes of arrogant.
Try focusing on THEM before you go off about YOURSELF. I mean even this question gave unnecessary information about yourself....You must be inherently arrogant.
A-non-known-mis(ter) | Aug 08, 2007
well...i think you need to be genuine and confident. Just like me many black women I know seem to be confident and they can tell when someone isn't I am sure.
tinklefairy | Aug 08, 2007
I am sure that they think you only want them for there bodies or you just feel like getting something a little different. Be real, stop trying to be all charming, and overly confident. black women, we like humor and someone that is real and down to earth, change your game and I guarantee you will get the girl......
Joy W | Aug 08, 2007
I agree with Joy W- Maybe you should switch the way that you are approaching them- be more down to earth. I am dating someone who is white right now. When he approached me it really stood out because I remember him asking me if I wanted to go paintball fighting with him- went and had a great time. Got me hooked since then...
AKAyla | Aug 08, 2007
I don't think that they are intimidated- they probably think you are joking- doing it for a bet- aren't sincere- you need to be yourself. Try being a gentleman, smiling, and good eye contact- don't giggle a lot, say words like ( dude, awesome, etc.) or words like ( yo, what up, mama)- be respectful. Keep you head up and don't give up- you will figure it out.
Mr. Goodlookin | Aug 08, 2007
just be yourself. Its not a black/hispanic/white thing... did you ever stop to think maybe they jsut arent into YOU aside from hiw you dress. When you find a female that is, it wont matter what color you are, and you wont be so hung up on her color. If she were not black of hispanic would you still assume it was the way you dress or would you take it at its worth and assume maybe its YOU. That may have something to do with why you arent havin any luck. Just b you! and let her b her!
ivyenvy1908 | Aug 08, 2007
I don't think I can top any of these answers but I do have a little more to add. Learn some of these ladies names and repeat them to yourself a few times. I am white and used to only date hispanics. I met my husband and the way he looked attracted me but I no longer think of his race, I know the real him.
You need to surround yourself in their environment so that you won't be nervous around these ladies when you approach them. Go to their restaurants, churches, social functions. Walk up to black/hispanic strangers and ask for the time, directions, etc.
Then the next time you approach them, just relax and be yourself. Let them know you are interested in them and casually ask if they would like to go grab a bite to eat, etc....
You can't help that you are attracted to certain characteristics but stay open about appearances or you may miss out on the love of your life.
Nanna | Aug 08, 2007
What is this song genre is Hip-Hop?
Dec 03, 2006 by +Adri_Bby+ | Posted in Blues
What is this song called and who is it by?? it goes like this:
' Sunny days, birds singin' sweet soundin' songs of love. as we walk hand in hand just kickin' up sand as the ocean lyes at our feet. i'm in your arms and all of your charms are 4 meeeeeeee!!!'
thats the very 1st verse!!
TLC_ good at being bad off of their thrid cd i think called fanmail.
gigglebox27 | Dec 03, 2006
TLC- Im Good At Being Bad
Miss Sadistic | Dec 03, 2006
its called ' Sunny days, birds singin' sweet soundin' songs of love. as we walk hand in hand just kickin' up sand as the ocean lyes at our feet. i'm in your arms and all of your charms are 4 meeeeeeee!!!'
Me | Dec 03, 2006
TLC - "good at bein' bad" !!!!
Renee | Dec 03, 2006
this will be an everlasting time for meeeeeeee
pooh bear ♥ | Dec 03, 2006
R@B from TLC
googleh20 | Dec 03, 2006
The song is called stop the catbox by TLC.
Antonio | Dec 03, 2006
Does Anyone Know Where To Get Custom Jewelery Made?
Nov 30, 2006 by Mr. Stokes | Posted in Fashion & Accessories
I'm looking for Custom Hip Hop Jewelery. I'm a rapper and I want to get my artist logo replicated on to a nice size charm kind of like how the G Unit Spinner Chains are. I stay in Saint Paul which is part of the Twin Cities, Minnesota area. If you stay in this area and know any jewelers please list them. I need someone who specializes in platinium and diamonds. I need real jewelers who are experienced
Most all jewelry shops (not mall stores) have actual jewelers that can do custom work for you. If it is an expensive enough piece you are looking for I will do it.
Random Precision | Nov 30, 2006
Choose a jewelery store that you really like and trust and ask them if they will make your piece for you. Most jewelery stores do this.
r_finewood | Nov 30, 2006
What's the name of this song and who is it by?
Dec 25, 2008 by alex32425 | Posted in Other - Music
I heard this song the other day and I was wondering what it's called and who it is by. I only know like one verse but I hope you can help. something like
" well I'm not Cinderella and you're not prince charming"
it's kinda like a country/hip hop song.
Is councilling usless as feminised ie chat listen hug no fix the problem?
Jul 07, 2006 by Joey | Posted in Mental Health
Ok by this I mean... females say they have a problem ie the car don't work...
Their girlie mates hug and give sympathy etc , sit there and listen... but the car is still broke...
A gay would get a tool kit, get her to help, fix the car, make her watch so she sees how to fix it, car owrking, next time she can fix it...
Thats the crux of it...
Ie teen girl, hates self, balemic, cuts self etc...
counceller listens yak yak Uterly point less.
Joey here would take her down beauty r Us, sort the hair, loose the glasses, and the braces. Get laser eye surgery so no more contacts, fix the allergy., manicure, pedicure, maybe palstic surgery... get her looking buff. Then get clothing coaches that will work with her personality to get her sexuy confident clothes... ie rock chick, surfer babe, biker chick, hip hop chick, goth, trendy, etc.
Prob sexy uniforms too... nurse cheerleader etc...
Pole dance lessons, exotic dancer lessons, how to charm boys lessons
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Had councilling... it was usless.
teaching me how to beat up muggers and jerks, get the girl, and keep her, and sort the job was what was needed, plus someoen to get me fit and work out why I could not understand people or body language...
Others maybe different...
ie seen shy girls pushed on a stage by mates in a backpacker (think frat boy) bar and as they started to dance the girls gainsed confidence and started to get out of their shell, get sexy and confident and then no longer a wall flower but sexy tiger...
Likewise listening wont help someon bullied, Combat lessons will... etc
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Why not ditch the coach and get a martial arts and fitness teacher.
Or pole dance lessons and a makeover for the girls
or skydiving for those scared of heights...
Or something akin to the mirro scene in the film 'Cool Runnings'
Ie big dude takes buillied mummys boy into toilet was bullied to teach self respect.
Asks him what he sees,
Mummy boy says junior...
Tough guy says
' Say I SEE A BAS AS MUTHA WHO DON'T TAKE NO CRAP FROM NOBODY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"
Tough guyy makes mummies boy say it over and over till angry, fired up, ready to punch the mirror then drags him back to bully to smash bullies head in as he now so mad...
Surely thats better then a chat on a couch?
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Make this simple...
By feminising I mean lets have a chat...
But thats no use...
Guys need you to fix the car, mand them a weapon and some fighting lessons so not bul;lied.
Or for you to pimp their car, give a make over, sort out a trainer for muscells etc and sort the problem...
Chats dont do shit...
Thats what Im trying to say...
thats what I mean by useful...
If bullied the bully is still there,
If you cant pull you still cant pull after a chat.
If scared of heights still are unless the councilling involves skydiving and absailing.
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Can someone please state what on earth Thronbird is on about as post made no sense...
Miine in simplified tersm is basically saying that id you had a problem (why else get councilling)
Have a chat with a councillor to fix it is pointless (ie how girls want to give you a hug and say its ok).
Whislt what makes it better is fixing the damn problem...
Ie if u ugly get a makeover so you can find love.
If buillied teach you to kick the crap out of bullies so no longer bullied.
If scared of hiegh get you bungee jumping till no longer scared...
Ie deaming with the probel...
Now can someone please explain how that makes you sick? or in some nightmare?
what's the question????
Women counselors are just that - counselors. They dont' get out there and fix your car anymore that a man counsleor. Their job is to sit and talk to you and help give you the confidence to fix your own car!
I've known both women and men counselors. If you find a counselor you don't like, try another. You can't get along with everyone. It has nothing to do with male or female. I have met female counselors and male counselors that I don't like.
helpme1 | Jul 07, 2006
Reviewed: Gucci Mane's The State vs. Radric Davis Washington City Paper
10.12.09
Song that most resembles Love in This Club is actually Sex in Crazy Places, which features a crashing Bobby V chorus and Gucci at his most manic: Dont compare me to your ex-man/Baby, hes a local joker/ Ill take you to Six Flags/ And drill you on the roller coaster. (As far as silly sex rhymes go, this is perhaps only topped by Ass fat as two basketballs/ Gucci finna dunk on her.)
Many of the other radio-ready tracks have one-word titles repeated over and over in chorusesWasted, Bingo, Heavynone of them any less endearing for it.
Though he doesnt enunciate very well and hes prone to banal or clichd lines about his dough (Early in the morning/Later in the evening/Im all about that money, man/ Even when Im sleeping) Guccis skills as a lyricist mostly deserve respect. Having resumed recording immediately upon returning from prison in March and barely let up until he went back in November, his countless hours in the studio have helped him hone his breath-control technique. It is his ability to squeeze certain syllables and let others breathe that separates him from ersatz imitators such as associate OJ da Juiceman. Like Wayne, the way Gucci says things is often more interesting than what hes saying, and like Jay at his peak, Gucci has also seized onto the rap zeitgeist, which currently exalts rappers mixing a childlike glee with grizzled street rhymes.
No track does this better than Lemonade. Featuring a kids chorus and a Bangladesh beat that sounds like a high register piano note being plunked over and over, its an innocent-sounding, transcendent work that references various yellow-colored hood set pieceswhips, jewels, grits, chicken, kush, dessert. The listener is left thinking that no one besides Gucci could have made a song containing allusions to handgun trafficking, getting high, and romantic disenchantment sound like a nursery rhyme. Many have tried, but no other rapper quite matches Guccis reckless bravado and goofy charm. Hes got an uncanny ability to make light of the dazzling, chaotic storm that is his life.
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